Regardless if you love the day or hate it, Valentine’s Day is going to happen. From the perfect gift and restaurant to making sure the conversation flows, there is more pressure for perfection on this day than any other. This is why it is important for men and women to remember their manners. Keep the following in mind when planning the big day:
Who do I celebrate with?
I absolutely believe that it is important for a man to invite a woman out for dinner on Valentine’s Day. If February 14 is rapidly approaching and he hasn’t asked you yet drop hints, or say nothing and plan a fun girls night. You just might end up having more fun!
Host a shindig at your house and invite your dateless friends. Plan a potluck dinner, have everyone bring their favorite wine, play board games, trash your ex-boyfriends and celebrate your independence. You can even pick a theme (dress like your favorite Bridget Jones’s Diary character or single celebrity) or arrange a secret gift exchange!
The age old question…who pays?
On this night, a man should definitely pay for dinner. If you just started dating and feel uncomfortable being wined and dined to this extent so soon, stick to the girls night out. Less stress and less heartache.
Can I order Lobster?
Follow his lead. If your date suggests dishes like lobster, caviar or truffles, fine. But if you were invited out for dinner, don’t order yourself the most expensive items on the menu. This is thoughtful and prevents a potential embarrassing situation.
Also, stick to a two-drink maximum. You don’t want to be falling all over your date in the middle of a nice restaurant.
What if he wants to have a romantic evening in?
There is another option to a night out of course. You or your man prepares a romantic meal at home. If you don’t live together, bring a bottle of wine or dessert, like chocolate covered strawberries. Say I am old fashioned but I believe there are certain dating rules that are sacrosanct. Find some love quotes & sayings and tell them to your partner, they’ll really appreciate it.
Keep your foot in your shoe and out of your mouth!
Keep the conversation appropriate. Sometimes if you don’t know the guy very well, there is the potential pitfall of the ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend story coming up. I would avoid this like the plague. If it comes up, try to change the subject and ask him about his favorite movie or talk about the family pet. Think of things you want to know about your date beforehand so you can be prepared if an uncomfortable topic comes up.
Valentine’s Day can evoke a whole lot of joyful and toxic emotions at the end of the night. There is nothing better than a romantic goodnight kiss for the guy you adore. And if the date didn’t go well, there is always the excuse that you must go home to walk your dog. After all, they are the most dependable creatures to find love on Valentine’s Day.